I'm not one to rant (prepare for a little rant) but lately on my radar and in my social feeds are all kinds of free instructional webinars with titles like Creating Financial Freedom, How to Let Go, Finding and Living a Life of Passion, or How to Turn Up the Volume of Your Inner Voice. You listen for an hour as an expert hints at what they know and why it works and then they pitch you their online course that sells for a few hundred dollars. I don't dispute that many of these experts have valuable insight to share. What I do not understand is why all the thought leaders providing these webinars think that a typical sales funnel is the best way to attract clients who are operating from a higher level of consciousness.
Sure, a sales funnel might have a track record of appealing to the masses but I for one start to get a feeling of disgust or distress as soon as I recognize that I'm in the funnel. Quite often these funnels are the way my own friends and colleagues are marketing so I stay online and I listen because I know they have great messages. What I have a challenge with is actually hearing the message because of the way it's being delivered.
What I know for sure is that when I trust your expertise and know I am going to get my money's worth I will gladly sign up for what you are offering. So here's my promise to myself and my peers in the industry,
It's almost September! Where the heck did summer go? I just dropped my daughter at college over 2000 miles away. I have felt a wave of love and support from friends and family who are all checking in to see if I am "okay".
First, I have such deep gratitude that people care about my well-being. Seriously- thank you all for your thoughts and words.
Second, I am celebrating not mourning. My daughter has wanted to live in California for as long as I can remember. She has set goals, worked her butt off and now she is living her dream.
As parents, our job is to equip our kids with the skills they need to leave us and to model love in a way that makes them feel connected despite having left.
I am celebrating my victory as a mom who watched her daughter go with love and pride. If you are struggling with a child heading off to college or even a little one heading to kindergarten, here are a few steps I use to increase the joy and remove anxiety.
1) Don't let "what ifs" and worries get in your head. What will happen WILL HAPPEN regardless of the amount of worry you put into any given situation.
2) Feel your feelings. (And don't let anyone tell you how you should be feeling). It's okay to cry tears of sadness or tears of joy and it's equally okay to feel relief that your role has changed. Allow your emotions.
3) Remember, a beginning doesn't mean something else is ending. Change is constant. Resistance to it will only cause unhappiness. When a new chapter begins, the old one doesn't disappear. Your memories are always there.
Do you love fall? Or does school starting fill you with dread? I'd love to hear if you embrace September or if you hate it. Please comment or post a reply on my FB page.
Happiness happens by choice not by chance. If you want to increase your sense of personal well-being there are simple habits you can adopt to help your levels of positivity increase. Happy habit formation is a hot topic and everyone from Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before, to Shawn Anchor author of The Happiness Advantage and Before Happiness, are writing about how to be happier. Rubin says “People often assume that the same approach will work for everyone, that the same habits will work for everyone, and that everyone has the same aptitude and appetite for forming habits, but from my observation, that's not true.” And Anchor points out “You have to train your brain to be positive just like you work out your body."
Before beginning any new happiness practice your need to ensure you are building your happiness on a stable foundation.
A foundation for happiness begins with:
Eating Well- Remember that eating means nourishing yourself. Try to be aware of your food choices. Eat healthy foods in a way that feels mindful.
Regular Physical Activity- Bodies are designed to be active. Pick a type of exercise that brings a smile to your face. Some people love a hike outdoors, others prefer a grueling free-weight session. The first step is just getting up and moving your body. Once you are doing that you can take time noticing which exercise choices fell invigorating and fun.
Getting Enough Sleep- Follow the rhythms of nature. A good sleep cycle follows the sun. Get into a good sleep routine that allows you to awaken feeling rested.
Once the foundation is in place then implementing these simple practices in a way that feels manageable and fun to you will increase your sense of joy and peace. Starting with one simple habit may be best for you, or you may be the type who prefers to jump fully in with all these methods for maximum impact. They key to successful habit formation is making simple, measureable changes so that you won’t give up before your new habits can be set.
Spend Mindful Time Each Day- Whether you meditate each day with the sunrise or take a mindful walk in nature on your lunch, taking time to connect with yourself releases stress and allows you to relax, connect and unleash creativity.
Foster Connection-Happy people feel connected at work, at home, or in their community. Finding people to engage with who share your passions or encourage your growth is a way to increase your sense of being a part of something. Volunteer. Invite a friend for lunch. Plan a picnic.
Look for the Positive -Our neural pathways strengthen with use. As you focus your awareness on noticing positive things, your brain becomes better and better at finding positive things. Much like the old Where’s Waldo? books, the more frequently you find Waldo, the easier he becomes to find.
Behave Authentically -Say yes when you want to. Say no when you want to. Start speaking from your true voice or not at all. As you become more comfortable with who you are, expressing who you are becomes easier.
Schedule Fun Time Most children engage in one fun activity after another for much of their day. Fun might be a swing at the park, finger painting, or being read to a bedtime. As adults, we can benefit greatly by inserting little bursts of play into you day. A sing-a- long on the morning commute or a dance party while preparing dinner can release tension. Remember, one person’s fun is another’s nightmare. Know yourself and use this knowledge to move toward things that feel playful and leave you smiling.
Feel & Express GratitudeThe quickest way to increase happiness is through gratitude. By acknowledging the good things in your life, your community or the world, you attract more things to your life to be thankful for.
Knowing that happiness is a choice means if you aren’t quite as happy as you want to be, you can change that. Remember to treat yourself with kindness and compassion as you move toward implementing your plan. If you have a day that feels less than happy, where anger or sadness prevail, remember that just the awareness that you want to feel differently is the first step to living your happiest life.
(originally posted on Chopra Centered Lifestyle blog