At the time of year where we set intentions and plan for the year ahead, here's a link to an article I wrote for Deepak Chopra's blog- Chopra Centered Lifestyle. Enjoy!
Happy New Year!!!
Ask yourself these questions
I recommend reading Martha Beck who is an expert on Inner Compass.
I also recommend getting to know yourself better through tools like the Enneagram or the Meyers-Briggs personality test.
Join us at "Cultivating Happiness" where we explore these ideas fully complete with exercises for you to explore at home.
Things are not what they are, they are what we think they are
Every event in our lives come to us as STIMULUS. I see a glass of wine.
We run the stimulus through a filter in our memory called BELIEF. I like wine. Wine is good.
And this elicits a response. I drink the wine.
Here's the thing about beliefs- they are not concrete. Two people see the same plate of liver and onions. One thinks licks their lips with hunger, the other gags. Who is right?
At the scene of an accident four witnesses all give entirely different stories of what happened as they remember it. Whose truth is correct?
Truth is what we choose to believe. If we can learn to reframe our beliefs and our memories to support out intentions and goals we will be happier. Scientific studies have proven that people with a richly woven personal story are happier. It also shows that our brains ability to focus on the happy things in life improves with practice. So if we start re-telling our past in a way that speaks with a positive tone or we resolve to expect good things rather than forecasting negative, we begin to weave a personal story filled with happiness and peace of mind.
It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see.
The holidays are a great time to start practicing.We have a ton of pre-conceived ideas about what the perfect holiday is. Meals served at a specific time, with a set group in attendance and perfectly chosen presents unwrapped by grateful recipients by a roaring fire in a wintry wonderland. If we relax on these expectations we can have just as much fun someplace without snow, with a strangers, lost luggage and no presents. It's all about the filter you chose. Is this stressful or an adventure.
At this time of year our already busy lives seem to burst at the seams with invitations, events, shopping, baking and we find our ability to maintain a healthy balance in our lifestyle is really put to the test.
What are you balancing
CAREER FAMILY FRIENDS FINANCES EXERCISE EMOTION HEALTH DIET
HOw do you do it?
Start with your intention. Make a list of what you need to do, what you want to do, and everything else you plan to do. Prioritize. Set time limits. Allow some down time and most importantly, be gentle with yourself if you don't get everything done.
It is better to juggle 3 balls well than to drop 5. Learn to say "no". Ask for help when you need it. Delegate. And remember...
A well developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life.