Growing up I was surrounded by a brother Jonathan whose name meant “gift from God”, a best friend Lara(“one who is famous”) and a best friend Andrea (” beautiful lady”). When I excitedly researched the meaning of my name, Tamara, I was crestfallen as only 10 year old girls can be to discover it meant “palm tree”. In the world of 10-year-old popularity, palm tree did not feel like a very cool name. I wished fervently that my mother had named me something more sophisticated like Tiffany or Jenna or more memorable like Raven Rogerson (channeling my inner Marilyn Monroe). But I was stuck with Tamara or Tammy as most of my close friends call me.
My father had always chosen to refer to me as Tamara and my mother used Tammy. My teachers and my classmates used Tammy. As an adult, every time I moved to a new location or started a new job I would begin by introducing myself as Tamara. Even though I didn’t love my name, using Tamara felt more grown-up. No matter how many times I introduced myself Tamara, people would gravitate back to calling me Tammy.
As life went on I became attracted to places that had palm trees. I love San Diego, California, I love tropical islands and I even live in Canada’s palm tree capital- Victoria British Columbia. I even heard a biblical verse referenced telling readers to be like a palm tree, but what exactly did it mean to be like a palm tree?
In hurricanes palm trees are able to bend to become almost parallel with the ground without breaking. I, like most people, have had a series of challenges in life that threatened to break me. Whether my hurricane was when my youthful aspirations of being a ballet dancer were thwarted by injury or when my oldest daughter was diagnosed as severely autistic at 2 ½, when my marriage ended in a confrontational divorce or when an investment bottomed out leaving me with nothing, I was still standing after the storm.
Being a palm tree suits me perfectly I can be calm amid chaos, I am unflappable, and I have finally grown into my name.
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