Buddha tells us that the root of suffering is attachment and yet positive psychology has proven that connection is key to positive well-being. How do we keep a balance of being connected but not attached?
We are wired to connect. Our brain releases oxytocin which reduces stress when we have a meaningful interaction with another human. On the opposite end of the spectrum exclusion and loneliness light up the same areas of the brain as physical pain. Historically we needed connection to make food, shelter & safety simpler. We learned to form communities to thrive. The point at which the connection turn to attachment is when we begin to see ourselves as unable to exist happily without the other person. The extreme of this is the bunnies boiling in Fatal Attraction. We see someone as an extension of self and without them we feel incomplete. How do we release this attachment? Eckhart Tolle says " How do you let go? DOn't even try. Effort creates attachment. Attachment to things (and people) drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them".
A few quick tip to release attachment