As children, we are educated out of our ability to SELF-TRUST. We begin life knowing why we do the things we do. "Why did you take that cookie?" "Beacuse I wanted it." Simple, right? But as we begin to grow we are told to sit at desks EVEN when we don't want to, to eat our vegtables EVEN when they taste bad or to clean out rooms EVEN when we could be outside playing. So we learn gradually that quite often the things that we WANT are the WRONG choices. As we enter out teen years we learn that pleasing our peers is more important than pleasing our teachers or our parents. And by the time we are in our twenties if you ask " Why did you take that cookie?" it is no longer simple to answer. Did we want it? Did we take it beacuse all our friends took one? Did we take it beacuse we knew our mom said not to eat the cookies? What was once a straightforward answer has, over time, become blurred.
So how do we turn up the volme on our inner-compass and begin relearning how to recognize what we want?
First let's examine your current pattern of decision making. Are you decisive or do you have trouble making decisions. Do you go with your gut or write a list of pros and cons? Is your current method working for you? An interesting study on effective choice making indicated that when making SMALL choices like which toothpaste or which running shoes, list making was the most effective way to get the best result however when making BIG decsions we actaully have better outcomes when we go with our first instinct.
BE CLEAR on what you want.
MOVE TOWARDS what you want rather than away from what you don't want.
DO YOU FEEL GOOD about your decision after you have made it?
GATHER EVIDENCE to support your belief that this choice was perfect for you.
And as Dr. Joyce Brother's said "Trust your hunches. They are usually based on facts filed just below the conscious level.