It's almost September! Where the heck did summer go? I just dropped my daughter at college over 2000 miles away. I have felt a wave of love and support from friends and family who are all checking in to see if I am "okay".
First, I have such deep gratitude that people care about my well-being. Seriously- thank you all for your thoughts and words.
Second, I am celebrating not mourning. My daughter has wanted to live in California for as long as I can remember. She has set goals, worked her butt off and now she is living her dream.
As parents, our job is to equip our kids with the skills they need to leave us and to model love in a way that makes them feel connected despite having left.
I am celebrating my victory as a mom who watched her daughter go with love and pride. If you are struggling with a child heading off to college or even a little one heading to kindergarten, here are a few steps I use to increase the joy and remove anxiety.
1) Don't let "what ifs" and worries get in your head. What will happen WILL HAPPEN regardless of the amount of worry you put into any given situation.
2) Feel your feelings. (And don't let anyone tell you how you should be feeling). It's okay to cry tears of sadness or tears of joy and it's equally okay to feel relief that your role has changed. Allow your emotions.
3) Remember, a beginning doesn't mean something else is ending. Change is constant. Resistance to it will only cause unhappiness. When a new chapter begins, the old one doesn't disappear. Your memories are always there.
Do you love fall? Or does school starting fill you with dread? I'd love to hear if you embrace September or if you hate it. Please comment or post a reply on my FB page.