All the self-help books say to let go of the past. If it was that simple, wouldn't we have let go already? No one wants to keep feeling the pain- or do they? Letting go of the past means opening up to the future and sometimes the unknown is more scary than the past.
I am pretty good at letting go...only because I tried so hard to hold on. The universe is funny that way- the more you try to hold on, the more it gifts you with opportunities to let go.
How to Let Go (even of the really hard stuff)