WE HAVE NOT COME HERE TO TAKE PRISONERS OR TO CONFINE OUR WONDROUS SPIRITS, BUT TO EXPERIENCE EVER AND EVER MORE DEEPLY OUR DIVINE COURAGE, FREEDOM, & LIGHT ~ HAFIZ
Freedom lies in the present moment, the only place where we can let go of patterns that no longer serve us. When we let go of ego, we become open to new opportunities.
Understanding this on a physical level and incorporating it into our daily life are entirely different things!
I have a client whose father walked out on her and her mother when she was seven. She suffered with self-esteem issues throughout her childhood due to her feelings of abandonment. She approaches her adult relationships cautiously with walls up looking for people who might "ditch her" as a friend or partner. She was neither warm nor open and she appeared somewhat snobby because of the way she carried herself. We began working together and she had the gradual realization that she was not attracting the right partners and friendships because of her belief that if you are vulnerable you will get hurt. Once she let go of the self-limiting belief her warmth shone through and shortly after she met the man who would eventually become her husband.
There is the wonderful story of a professor who holds up a glass of water "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it.If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
He continued, "And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on."
I like to ask myself who am I holding on for? Myself or what others think. And then when you have identified something or someone you want to let go of, how do you do it?
Letting go is a little like pulling of a bandage. If you peel is slowly or rip it of quickly, the ultimate result is the same. So why delay your happiness. Let go of the things in your life that no longer serve you and free up some space for all the great things to come!