We spend our lives making judgments through every choice we make. Whether it is pizza or pasta, to walk or take the bus or if we should buy Hunter boots or Ilse Jacobson.
"I intend to judge things for myself; to judge wrongly, I think, is more honorable than not to judge at all"
~ Henry James
We define ourselves with judgments like "I'm too fat", "My hair is too thin"or "I'm smart". We define others by judging their handshakes, their choice in overpriced coffee or cars or clothing. What we need to remind ourselves of is
WHEN I JUDGE YOU IT SAYS NOTHING ABOUT YOU AND EVERYTHING ABOUT ME.
If we stop judging judgements as bad and start seeing them as useful indicators, we are on the right path! Everything is perceived as good or bad on the most basic level. That man smiled at me-good. That dog is in a car on a hot day- bad. This job is boring-bad. I got a raise- good.
If you examine this pattern you will see there is always a stimulus (the man, the dog, the job, the raise) and there is always the response (good, bad, bad, good). It's what is in between the stimulus and the response that is really important here; the beliefs we have that help us to formulate good or bad. Losing 5 lbs- good or bad? To me good; I would love to lose 5 lbs. To a cancer patient fighting to keep on weight, bad. Same stimulus, different belief, different response. So you see, there is no correct answer. Just our beliefs coloring our responses.
So if there is not a right or wrong judgment, how do we judge?
IT ALL COMES BACK TO INTENTION.
Is the judgment useful or helpful?
Is it moving you towards something better or limiting your potential?
Is it truly YOUR judgment or is it something you believe because a parent, a peer, or a mentor told you to believe it?
Letting go of judgments that are no longer useful will lighten your spirit and free your mind to new opportunities. So what are you waiting for?
THE ABILITY TO OBSERVE WITHOUT EVALUATING IS THE HIGHEST FORM OF INTELLIGENCE. ~JIDDHU KRISHNAMURTI